I have been reflecting on my earlier post (unless you are a nurse, or a student nurse you may not know that reflection is a BIG part of nursing!) and I guess there are a few more things that I want to say or explain that I either forgot previously or didn’t think of at the time.
I mentioned how business travel meant a lot of long hours etc…I don’t for one second think that nursing is going to be any fewer hours, any less stress or any less work. I also appreciate that in nursing no day is the same, and I do thrive in that environment. I’d get bored if everything was the same all the time and if it wasn’t challenging. I also do love travel and seeing the world and experiencing different cultures. This planet Earth of ours and the people on it (for the most part) are astonishing.
I guess what I meant to say was that the level of travel that I have experienced has made it very difficult for me to manage my time and work life balance. I don’t have a family (as in partner and/or children – obviously I have a family, Hi mum!) or commitments or anything that ties me to a single place or that may on occasions limit what I can do or where I can go and when, nonetheless, and how could I ever start a family or why would I ever bother buying a house if I’m never in one place for long.. I want a home life for a little while, and if I then decide I want to travel again, so be it, but I can’t make an educated decision if I have only really experienced one side of it in my working life.
I also mentioned that I had learnt a lot of lessons following my stint in hospital. I’m hoping that the things that I learnt will help me in my career as a nurse…by empathising with people’s circumstances and also by sharing my experiences. I can not only relate to how frightening, alone, desperate, anxious, painful, emotional and nerve-wrecking hospital (or any other) treatment/stays can be, but I also know what it feels to come out of the other side.
I know that at times it really does feel like you will never feel better, that you will be institutionalised forever.
I know that initially, it really feels like no-one will ever find out what’s wrong with you because you could never possibly explain every feeling and pain you are experiencing and no-one could every truly understand or know anyway unless they were you.
I know that night time can be truly horrendous and lonely when your loved ones are not with you.
I know that when you start feeling better there will be times when you will feel worse again and you will think that you’ve gone back to square one.
I know that you never go back to square one, not really, and if things are really desperate, there are always ways to make things a little more comfortable, even if not better. All it may take is a hug, or holding someone’s hand, or even an extra blanket.
I know it is hard bloody work when you’re ill to put the effort into getting better, it’s not something that just happens; there is no magic pill which will improve anyone’s health against their will. In my view (and that’s all it is) it is a completely holistic process which requires the body, mind and environment to work together. 1 or 2 out of 3 will not work.
I know how important it is to motivate people into looking after themselves and caring about themselves, even if all that means is taking 10 minutes out each day or putting a bit of lippy on.
I know that sometimes people who you thought were close will distance themselves because they don’t understand, making you feel even more alone and isolated.
I know that keeping your independence and having a voice is crucial to build self-esteem, self-awareness and confidence. It can beyond demoralising, embarrassing and distressing to have assumptions been made about you and your needs and wants without discussion.
I know and understand that there are times when people don’t have the energy or motivation to get better. It saddens me deeply when people seemingly give up on themselves.
I know that for as long as I am able, I will try my hardest to remember what it is like to feel so vulnerable and to provide whatever support necessary to help whoever needs me.
“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does. “
~William James
PS – On a lighter note, I tried a chocolate and bacon cup cake today made by a colleague. It was really delicious!! It sounds a little odd but it was yummy! What with changing careers and willingly trying these ‘experiments’ no-one can say I’m not open to new challenges….and yes, that is crispy bacon on top.